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Moved all outdoor houseplants from greenhouse to porch, moved remaining indoor trees out to greenhouse. Moved a bunch of unsprouted canna pots indoors to warm. Spread compost on front and bridge gardens.

Started a new language challenge, imitating evildea again but without lingopie for reasons that are largely, I enjoy other content more.

Me-and-media update

May. 6th, 2026 03:43 pm
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Previous poll review
In the Search engine recs poll, 49% of respondents use Google, 46.9% use DuckDuckGo, and 10.2% use StartPage. There were two write-ins for Kagi, a paid search engine that apparently works like it's 2004.

In ticky-boxes, apocalypse fatigue came second to the inevitable winner, hugs, 42.9% to 69.4%. Clumsy parrots came third with 42.9%. Hugs to you all, and thank you for your votes! ♥

Reading
Andrew and I finished Bujold's The Vor Game, and I've downloaded Cetaganda but we haven't started it yet. I've also grabbed the new Murderbot, which might save me from my swamp of easy-listening podcasts.

Still dipping into Refuse to Be Done by Matt Bell. Really need to pick up a novel and devour it with my eyeballs sometime, but I accidentally filled my spare moments with something else (see Language Learning below).

Kdramas
Finished Phantom Lawyer, which was enjoyable enough. I wasn't invested in the romance, but the general vibe was good-hearted and cosy.

The Red Sleeve is heavy on the palace politics, so I don't know how long I'm going to last. Ot1h, Junho; otoh, a hundred scheming ministers and princesses. Maybe I should rewatch The King Loves instead?

Absolute Value of Romance is on a collision course with my DNWs, so I have my fingers crossed that it isn't going where everyone seems to thinks it is.

Other TV
We finished Dark Winds season 4 last night. It is a great show with very charismatic leads.

Still watching Rooster, Fringe, Bluey, Deadloch season 2 (no spoilers, please!) and People of Earth. Also original flavour Scrubs, though the comedy is wearing thin on the workplace bullying and constant misgendering, hmm. (Does the reboot keep those elements?)

Not sure what we're replacing Dark Winds with -- probably the latest season of The Lincoln Lawyer.

Audio entertainment
Like, just way too many episodes of Bill and Frank's Guilt-free Pleasures. /o\ Writing Excuses and half an ep of Cross Party Lines, which is diminished by the loss of one of its hosts to offline politics.

Online life
I'm really enjoying [community profile] polyamships' prompts for [community profile] 3weeks4dreamwidth and, similarly, [personal profile] maevedarcy's memes. Continuing to struggle with keeping up with my reading page, but that's probably the new normal.

The Slo-Mo Rewatch on [community profile] sid_guardian has quietened down a little, but it still absorbs about a quarter of my fannish/writing time, and I love it.

Writing/making things
I'm being incredibly slow to make beta edits to my 520 Day fic. Where do the hours go? Never mind, I'm working reasonably steadily, and that's more important to me than output rates.

Life/health/mental state things
Sleep is improving, but my shoulder's been sore for a week... since I downloaded certain apps. Hm.

I have a number of political submissions on my to-do list, each of which require me to think coherent thoughts.

For those following the saga of my car, we called NZAA on Monday 4 May, took it for a long drive (and finished The Vor Game while we were at it), and it's now snuggled against the bank at the bottom of my path, with the trickle charger theoretically doing its thing. I've only driven it once for non-battery-recharging reasons since the oil crisis started, and that outing was at least partly motivated by keeping the battery charged. I'll see how the Warrant of Fitness goes on Monday.

House
The reputtying is complete, and the builders have decamped with the scaffolding, hooray! The next big job will either be [paint upstairs, replace the 1960s gas oven with electric, and refloor the kitchen] or [replace the toilet with a non-cracked, less water-hungry model, and refloor the bathroom]. Neither of these is super urgent, and both require research, decisions, and expenditure, blah, so I'll catch my breath first.

In the meantime, Andrew is filling some gaps in the kitchen wall, and I've ordered an IKEA shelving unit for the built-in wardrobe in my spare room. Which means soon there'll be less random clutter around the living-room, woohoo! In theory, it won't all go into the cupboard; I'm hoping to dispose of some of it while tidying away the rest.

Language Learning
I've spent the last eight years in a Chinese drama fandom, going, "Sunk cost, sunk cost, Korean is my One True Asian Language Love ♥ ♥ ♥" and "I wouldn't have the first clue how to even start with Mandarin" and "argh, tones! argh, characters!" Now, thanks to [personal profile] starandrea's inspiring/encouraging post about starting their Chinese-learning journey, I have nine-day streaks for both Duolingo and Hello Chinese.

I prefer Hello Chinese: it has a good mix of speaking/listening/reading/writing, a variety of practice options, and occasional audio lessons about usage. I like its focus on teaching grammar-adjacent words like "to be", "this", "possessives", etc, rather than Duolingo's noun clusters (though of course you need both). But I've finished the free portion and am now wrestling with whether I'm actually doing this and whether tracing characters on my screen is what's messing up my shoulder. Also, I had a moment of extreme outrage about stroke orders yesterday, lol.

Idk. I'm not sure how much of this I can cram into my aphantasic little head. *dithers with finger hovering over the "one month" (ie, lowest commitment, least cost-effective) option*

Good things
The re-puttying is complete! My sister's coming over tonight. My lemon tree is singing a song of a hundred lemons. My 520 Day fic is nearly done. Guardian, fandom, Dreamwidth.

Poll #34569 Sailing the seas
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 18


For ship fic, I prefer to:

View Answers

get straight to the romantic smooshing
3 (16.7%)

untangle a thicket of character issues first...
9 (50.0%)

... and/or during...
11 (61.1%)

... and/or after
8 (44.4%)

I don't care for ship fic
1 (5.6%)

other
2 (11.1%)

ticky-box full of giant bumble bees playing trombones
7 (38.9%)

ticky-box full of bananas, nuts, crackers, and fruitcake
5 (27.8%)

ticky-box full of language-learning apps
5 (27.8%)

ticky-box full of baking
8 (44.4%)

ticky-box full of hugs
13 (72.2%)

Kindle ebook cover question

May. 5th, 2026 11:27 pm
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Any idea how to get non-sideloaded ebook thumbnails to show up on Kindle Fire?

Some of the ones for books I bought on Amazon are suddenly showing blank placeholder images on collection previews (the larger thumbnails that appear when I open a collection folder seem fine). The thumbnails for my sideloaded fanfic show up fine so far.

ETA: the same thumbnails on my phone's kindle app look fine

Daily Happiness

May. 5th, 2026 08:14 pm
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1. I got a call from the vet this afternoon and Jasper has a clean bill of health. No crystals in his urine and kidney function is good, so she agreed that it's almost certainly just stress related and we'll continue to try and avoid any possible triggers for him.

2. I actually had a chance to bring up my work decision totally naturally with my former supervisor, as we were talking and he was wondering how much longer I was going to be on this project, so I was like, the thing is, after the project is over, I don't want to go back to being area manager, and explained my decision. He was bummed, but very supportive. I didn't talk to my current supervisor about it because frankly I don't really like him that much and it doesn't really concern him, since once the project is over I would not be in his department anymore anyway (though technically he is now sort of acting vice president so it all concerns him but still). Anyway, I continue to feel good about verbalizing it and making it more real, since having that to look forward to does help to reduce the current stress.

Also last week I felt really stressed and directionless about work, even though it was nice to work from home, but today I had several productive discussions with people and am generally feeling better about the project overall.

3. Yesterday Ollie found (and ate) two spiders! Lucky boy! One of them was under the shoe rack, apparently.

Happy Murderbot Day!

May. 5th, 2026 11:11 pm
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Mind you, I didn't remember till quarter past bedtime, so I am not done reading yet. But I will read!

Books I've read recently

May. 5th, 2026 10:26 pm
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Desmond by Ulysses Grant Dietz:

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The Duke by Anna Corwan:

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Fifth of the fifth.

May. 5th, 2026 08:08 pm
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Sometimes I think of myself as largely ignorant of computers, unable to identify a problem I've been having lately with enough precision to fully troubleshoot it or even find out what's going wrong sometimes. And then there's days like today where I meet someone who doesn't know what an operating system is. Key to this: she's at least a decade older than I am and does a lot of work on her own computer. I had to explain what an operating system is so I could explain a joke I made about Linux, and then I had to explain Linux.

It's for the best that I didn't go for the obvious Kinsey scale joke when she told her trainer she was straight. "At least a Kinsey two," is what I'd have said if I'd thought she'd have gotten it.

In other news, I only used a little of the bottle of prosecco I bought for the springtime asparagus-ramp risotto, and the pressure of the remaining bubbles had the stopper knock off in the fridge. I suppose the best solution is simply to drink it.

Write Every Day: Day 5

May. 5th, 2026 06:07 pm
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Intro/FAQ


My check-in: Broke ground on the new fic to the tune of 650 words. This post went up later than planned because I kept getting distracted by the arithmetic of pounds, shillings, and pence. (And guineas. And crowns. And…)


Day 5: [personal profile] sanguinity, [personal profile] ysilme

Day 4: [personal profile] acorn_squash, [personal profile] badly_knitted, [personal profile] carenejeans, [personal profile] cornerofmadness, [personal profile] dswdiane, [personal profile] glinda, [personal profile] goddess47, [personal profile] sanguinity, [personal profile] sylvanwitch, [personal profile] trobadora, [personal profile] ysilme

Day 3: [personal profile] acorn_squash, [personal profile] badly_knitted, [personal profile] carenejeans, [personal profile] cornerofmadness, [personal profile] dswdiane, [personal profile] glinda, [personal profile] sanguinity, [personal profile] sylvanwitch, [personal profile] the_siobhan, [personal profile] trobadora, [personal profile] ysilme

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When you check in, please use the most recent post and say what day(s) you’re checking in for. Remember you can drop in or out at any time, and let me know if I missed anyone!
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 With spring comes--that's right--road work! Since I walked right by it on my way to work, I naturally took a few pictures.

 

 

 

This is State Road 9, called Orange Street as it passes through Albion. Being an INDOT project, the official detour is over state and US highways, making it dozens of miles out of the way. This is why I predict lots of lost/idiot drivers on Albion streets over the next couple of months. It should be pointed out that lost drivers are not always idiots and vice versa, although plenty of intelligent people have been known to get behind the wheel and do stupid things.

 

 

 


 

They're grinding down the entire road, taking it right down to the bricks that were once the surface and, from what I've heard, removing the bricks. I have a brick from when they removed them from the Noble County Courthouse square several years ago--they're heavy and well made, as you might imagine from many years ago.

 

 

 

Of course, I could just show you the bricks.

 

 


There are warning signs in the next friggin' state alerting drivers that the roads will be closed, but some moron will still drive around everything and try to go through. To make matters worse, we had high winds today that blew over some of the barricades--although this one's still effective in blocking people from coming out of the alley.

 

As I was walking past it a dust devil rose up from the gravel parking lot and hit me so hard, I thought I saw Munchkins for a second. I had to spit out some dirt and irrigate my eyes, but otherwise no harm done.

 

This is the first of what appears to be a three part job--and a future part of that runs in front of my house. Since they've closed the road entirely, my question is: How do we get to and from home? Specifically Emily, who has to either drive or camp out at the state park for the rest of spring; as seen by the pictures, I can walk (or stay home on the laptop). The driveway I share with a neighbor is a vacated alley, and there's no back entrance. It's the street, or do some Top Gear type four-wheeling down the hill into another neighbor's yard.

 

 

It was really windy.

 

 




 

 

When the road doesn’t go smoothly in our books, it’s way more entertaining:

 

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·        Barnes & Noble:  https://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/"Mark R Hunter"

·        Goodreads:  https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/4898846.Mark_R_Hunter

·        Blog: https://markrhunter.blogspot.com/

·        Website: http://www.markrhunter.com/

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·        Audible:  https://www.audible.com/search?searchAuthor=Mark+R.+Hunter&ref_pageloadid=4C1TS2KZGoOjloaJ&pf

 

 

Remember: You don’t have to brave road conditions if you have a book in the house.


Vatican-approved movie night

May. 5th, 2026 06:27 pm
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Things:

--Today I learned that the only Hollywood film on the Vatican-approved movie list is Ben-Hur.

--I have once again fallen into the trap of continuing to come up with new shiny WIPs before finishing old WIPs. Inevitable peril of fandom.

--Having recently watched Close Encounters of the Third Kind, I've been thinking about the category of Movies About Aliens That Aren't Actually About Aliens, but then I ended up thinking about movies about aliens that actually are about aliens and I'm honestly struggling to think of any.

Because movies about aliens are, in general, actually about the human response to aliens. The aliens are just a vehicle for whatever thing someone wants to say about humans.

Is there an alien movie that's about aliens? Convince me.

Book meme

May. 6th, 2026 12:03 pm
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#mybooks meme via [personal profile] maevedarcy, adapted by me to suit myself.

This week I'm reading: The Vor Game by Lois McMaster Bujold, read by Grover Gardner; Refuse to Be Done by Matt Bell; and a bunch of Kdrama subtitles... ;-p

My favorite book of all time is: What kind of question is this? Completely impossible! I can't even name a favourite author.

My current favorite book (read or re-read in the last 3 months) is
:

Since February, I've read a bunch of new-to-me Bujold in audio, narrated by Grover Gardner (from the Vorkosigan and Penric series), some Courtney Milan in ebook (Wedgeford series), The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman (hardback from the library), The Hymn to Dionysus by Natasha Pulley in audio, narrated by Sid Sagar, Refuse to Be Done by Matt Bell in ebook, Good old-fashioned Korean spirit by Kim Hyun Sook (paperback from the library), and half of Siren Queen by Nigh Vo in audio, narrated by Natalie Naudus.

Of those, my favourite was The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman, mostly because I chose it fairly randomly, and it was delightful, enjoyable, thoughtful, and unexpected. (I love random library finds!) Runner up goes to The Hymn to Dionysus (thanks to [personal profile] profiterole_reads for the rec).

If we went back another six or eight weeks, it would be Swordcrossed by Freya Marske (secondary-world high-society m/m, with guilds).

The last book I bought was
: The Earl Who Isn't by Courtney Milan, in ebook.

The first book I bought with my own money was: LOL, no idea. At all.

The first book I received as a gift was: We're talking 50+ years ago. I do remember having an older (20-something?) penpal who would send me books when I was in my early-teens. In particular, she sent me I Am David and The Hobbit.

The last book I received as a gift was: Siren Queen by Nghi Vo, in audio.

The last book I borrowed from the library was: Hine Toa: a story of bravery by Ngāhuia Te Awekōtuku. I only read the prologue before I had to return it. /o\

The book physically closest to me right now is: assuming ebooks don't count, it's Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals from Around the World, edited by Robyn Ochs and Sarah E. Rowley, which is at this end of the bookshelf behind me, in the queer section natch.

This or that:

Physical book, e-book, or audio: ebook or audio, depending on the book, the narrator, and my mood.
Used, new, or fell off the back of the internet: Any.
Fiction or non-fiction: Mostly fiction, but I go through NF phases.
Read at a coffee shop or at the park: In ebook, mostly on the couch at home or while I'm stretching after exercise; in audio, while I'm doing dishes, stretching after exercise, walking, folding dumplings, etc.
Paperback or hardcover: physical books can be pretty hard on my hands/wrists/arms/neck, so if I'm reading in hard copy, anything that will lie flat on its own.
Romance or Crime: Romance.

Yes or no:
Literary fiction?
Sure.
Sci-fi/fantasy? Yes, please.
Poetry? Not as much as I used to, but sure.
Memoirs? I'm not opposed to them, but rarely pick them out.
Philosophy? Yep. Also, science and pop psych.
Thrillers? Only if there's another aspect to draw me in.
Chronicles? I don't know what this is.
Travel logs? No.
Dialogue heavy?
Sure.

Also, I thought I'd add a note on what makes me try a book:

I have a google doc of recs from offline friends and my reading page; I'm definitely influenced by recs. There are some authors and audiobook narrators that will lure me in. I am predisposed towards SF/F and romance, often in combination. I enjoy narrations with a sense of humour and queer rep, and I will generally try Korean books in translation, if I encounter them. As mentioned above, I love browsing the library, semi-randomly choosing a book, and discovering something unexpected and great. But I don't do it very often, because hard copy...

Daily Check-In

May. 5th, 2026 06:02 pm
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This is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time) on Tuesday, May 05, to midnight on Wednesday, May 06. (8pm Eastern Time).

Poll #34567 Daily Check-in
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 18

How are you doing?

I am OK.
9 (52.9%)

I am not OK, but don't need help right now.
8 (47.1%)

I could use some help.
0 (0.0%)

How many other humans live with you?

I am living single.
7 (38.9%)

One other person.
7 (38.9%)

More than one other person.
4 (22.2%)




Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
 
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Herscht 07769 by László Krasznahorkai: Florian Herscht, a young German man with no family and an ambiguous learning disability, has become convinced that he - and perhaps he alone - can see the end of the universe coming, due to his misunderstanding of an adult education class in particle physics. What is to be done about this? Why, he needs to inform Angela Merkel. Angela Merkel will know just what to do. In his free time Florian writes letter after letter to Angela Merkel; the rest of the time he works for the Boss, who runs both a cleaning company (Florian's business) and a unit of militant neo-Nazis marshalled in their fading, impoverished former industrial village (not Florian's business, despite the Boss's ongoing efforts to indoctrinate him).

The cover of this novel is emblazoned very prominently with its author's prestigious awards (he is last year's Nobel laureate in Literature and has also received an International Booker) but that's not why I read it. I read it because my sister's boyfriend pressed his unwanted copy on me with the irresistibly flattering remark that he absolutely hated it but that I, a more serious reader than him, would surely be equal to its challenge. This worked on me a little too well and I devoured the book over two and a bit days, despite the fact that it is, in fact, quite difficult.

Specifically, it is difficult because the whole thing is written in a single sentence. At least in its English translation (by Ottilie Mulzet; the original is in Hungarian) this obviously involves some abuses of grammar, and with no chapter, paragraph or even sentence breaks, you don't really feel like you can stop. I spent the first fifty pages or so involuntarily trying to dismantle the prose into more traditional units in my head before I finally got into the flow of it; after that it was a dreamlike, slightly bewildering reading experience, where I gave up trying to keep strict track of the chronology (it jumps around all over the place, back and forth in time as well as freely between characters' heads) and just let the story wash over me. Set shortly before and during the COVID pandemic, it is perhaps around 70% supremely petty goings-on between a community of ageing smalltown Germans and their beloved village idiot, and then 30% appalling Nazi violence; the result is darkly funny, depressing, infuriating, and quietly apocalyptic in its portrayal of a way of life that is in irreversible global decline. I'm not exactly hoping the prose style catches on more broadly, but I did very much enjoy myself.

The Knight and the Moth by Rachel Gillig: This has been marketed all wrong! It's neither romantasy nor fantasy proper, and if you try to read it as either, you get major structural and stylistic problems. What it actually is - and what it does a really good job of being, imo - is a fairytale. An original, longform, gothic fairytale updated to millennial/gen z sensibilities. If you've ever read one of those "feminist fairytale retellings" that have been so prominent on bookstore shelves in recent years, that's going to give you the closest sense of what reading this book is like.

Our heroine, Sybil, was taken into Aisling Cathedral as a child and has no memories of her life before being inducted as one of her faith's six Diviners. These girls - always girls - have the power to foretell the future through their dreams as they are drowned to unconsciousness in a magical spring. But as the Diviners' ten year period of service nears its close, and the now adult young women look forward to their freedom in the wider kingdom, they start vanishing one by one. Sybil flees the cathedral and sets out on a quest to discover what has happened to her sisters, helped along the way by an adorably eccentric gargoyle and a devilishly handsome, abrasive knight named Rodrick Myndacious.

(Yes, his name is actually Myndacious.)

The worldbuilding in this story is a lot of fun but not at all to be taken seriously. The characters all read like ordinary modern people who have agreed to live under a feudal system for the #aesthetic but see no actual reason why that other guy over there (the king of the realm) should think he's any better than them! Get over yourself, Your Majesty! The Diviners are Vestal Virgins who smoke fantasy marijuana, have casual sex to their hearts' content, and affectionately call each other "shrews" instead of "bitches". The kingdom's economy is in the silliest state since the king from Sleeping Beauty ordered all his land's fibrecraft to a halt: there are only five hamlets, each of which is entirely devoted to (respectively) the crafts of Scribe, Forester, Fisherman, Merchant or Weaver; the earth just tills itself, I guess. The author also spoon-feeds every moral message and plot development with such fondly infantilising care that I had accurately guessed the entire book's trajectory by the time we were done with the set-up. But this is kind of why I'm harping on genre: nobody reads fairytales because they're in serious suspense as to whether Sleeping Beauty will really wake up, or whether Cinderella will really get her prince. I would have liked it even better if I'd been allowed to feed myself, but at the end of the day, the stuff on the spoon tasted really damn good.

This book is only the first in a series called The Stonewater Kingdom; the next instalment is due this September, and I'm going to have to read it, because the ending of the first is too dark to be left alone. I mean, I can pretty much already guess how it's all going to resolve, but I won't feel satisfied until I see it happen. The final book of The Hurricane Wars trilogy is also due out shortly after, in October, so I guess the back end of this year is going to be heavy on enemies(ish)-to-lovers popcorn reads with endearingly silly worldbuilding for me.

The Big Idea: Martha Conway

May. 5th, 2026 09:17 pm
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Posted by Athena Scalzi

Do we as a society tend to abide by the phrase, “if you love something, let it go,” or are we more likely to dig our claws in and refuse to part ways? Author Martha Conway discusses in the Big Idea for her newest novel, We Meet Apart, just how impactful the absence of family members and loved ones can be, and what it feels like to be left behind.

MARTHA CONWAY:

When I was twenty-three, three of my five older sisters divorced themselves from our family. They took care to tell me that their issues were with my parents, not me, but nevertheless, I didn’t see or hear from them in over ten years. They didn’t attend my wedding, which hurt me deeply—it seemed to me that their non-relationship with my parents was more important to them than a relationship with me. 

My feelings back then were tumultuous. I missed my sisters, I was angry, I was confused, and I was sad—often, it felt like, simultaneously. Later, when my mother died quite suddenly, I felt the same way: an avalanche of mixed emotions.

What do you do when a loved one leaves, or dies? Would you follow them if you could, even if it meant giving up your own independence, your own future? And how do you honor all the many emotions you feel without drowning in them?

In my speculative historical novel We Meet Apart, two American sisters find themselves stranded in Ireland in 1940, but in two separate worlds. They believe their whole family has died. One sister, Gaby, is devastated with grief but lives a comfortable life; her younger sister Sabine is angry and must fight to survive in a war-torn country. When they finally meet—for only an hour a day, at dusk, in that thin veil between two worlds—they must decide whether to stay together or part, probably forever. Staying together is familiar and comfortable, but it doesn’t allow for their personal growth. Parting means growth, separation, and possibly danger.

As I was writing this novel I found myself wondering: can a person give up a loved one voluntarily? And what are the consequences? What are the consequences of hanging on? 

The older I get, the more often I hear a similar story to my own from friends and acquaintances: they have a family member who is “off stage” or “out of the family” or “not speaking to the rest of us.” The shame I once felt around my own broken family has lessened, knowing that others have had this experience, too. 

Today I have a good relationship with two of these sisters, but it took time. Partway through writing We Meet Apart, when it became clear to me that one sister was going to go her own way, I felt a kind of acceptance. Children grow up, families change, siblings relocate, and the nuclear family shifts into another form. Sometimes, when it happens suddenly and without warning, it feels more impactful. But it always happens, to one degree or another. As the saying goes, the only constant in life is change.


We Meet Apart: Amazon|Barnes & Noble|Bookshop

Author’s Socials: Website|Facebook|Instagram|Substack

 

Happy Mail!

May. 5th, 2026 05:02 pm
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